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AndrewWalker 
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 Posted: 10:55AM Feb 2, 2008 |
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I am overly stressed. I am only 15 and I have more stress than a 45 yr old in a midlife crisis. I know everyone has stress, but how do you lower ur stress level? I have a huge family history of heart disiase, I have been bullied to the point of calling the police, I have multiple mental and emotional disorders, my family is sick having surgery or dying, I am depressed, I am on an anti-phycotic drug, I cn't sleep unless I take that, I feel sick all the time plus poor diet and exercise, I am no longer motivated to do anything, I still get A's but they are getting hardeer to get b/c I just don't care anymore, I am damaging my heart with all the stress, I can barely function, I am angery, I have been tramitized (PTSD is post tramatic stress disorder caused by tramitic expirences), I have a weak social life I need help, any ideas?
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Dontrelle
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Posted: 11:39AM Feb 2, 2008 |
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I like you have too much stress, sometimes to a breaking point, but to relieve it talking to a friend/family helps, it doesn't matter what you talk about, just talk. I also like to go outside and just pet my animals or go for a boat ride. Anything really. Music is the best for me. You really need to just test it and see what works for you, once you've found it use that as your safe spot.
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 11:47AM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Yeah, some of that works for me too. But there is a funny thing, hard to find something interesting to do in a small town (2000 people) so I have to go at 30 min. away to go to a town that actually has something to do, but music helps, and talking too so thank you.
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Dontrelle
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Posted: 12:27PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Sounds like we live in the same county,  everyone is family in this town, we have to go 10 minutes to get groceries and 30 minutes for movies/wal*mart etc..... and I am home-schooled and my parents work, so thats why animals are great.
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 12:34PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Actually my family is a big stressor for me
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Posted: 12:36PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Same here, that is why I usually just sit outside or get on braingle, so I can be alone or with my virtual family.
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 12:48PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Well when it is below zero, and the street is coated in ice and snow, I will sit inside with claimate controll
but I know some people say squeeze a stress ball, have fun or something, well as you can see from my first post having fun isn't going to be a walk in the park, and I would need thousands of stress balls, do you know of any book, websites, or movies that are really funny, b/c laughing really helps me? Or are there any mental exercises that might help, like visualizing (although I do that a lot, but I tend to lose a sense of reality for a bit, and I think it is true then reality hits and it sucks), or a mental game?
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Posted: 04:12PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Life is nothing but a game. A horrible, unfair game. But a game. Thing is: Do you even know how to play the game? Stop focusing on everything that's bad. Even if the only good thing is that you have a roof over your head, focus as much as possible on that. Focus on helping people who need help. Once you help others, you yourself will no longer need help, because your problems are all in your mind, and no matter how absurd that may sound, it's true. You don't have to believe me. Just remember, You're born. You do your best, rushing around working and having ridiculous responsibilities and loads of stress. You're playing the game of life. Trying to win, just like everybody else. Now you're dead. What in the name of God did you actually accomplish with all that working and stressing out about your own problems? Isn't everybody put here for a reason? Be the one who actually lives up to that reason. Be the one who breaks out of the dungeon.
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 04:15PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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thanks thats good advice, and does anyone see the irony in you live you are a saint and you die at age 50, the good really do die young, and the mean stay around forever, I guess a lot of the stress really is in my head.
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Dontrelle
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Posted: 08:36PM Feb 2, 2008 |
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Laughing does help a lot, I do not read enough to know of any funny books, you should consider joining tintiniscool's talk-box for this matter. As for movies, there are tons of them, watching TV can also be a good source, I do not watch a lot of TV but you might? That is a good way, you know, get your mind off of life. I like music in your situation, taking a walk or a drive helps. But like you said sometimes that is hard, so I would suggest music/TV/Movies.
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 07:40AM Feb 12, 2008 |
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drive, humm I'll pass it is winter, I am 15 I am NOT NOT NOT so stressed I want to die. Anyway I am trying, I don't want to die at a young age so I am destressing.
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Posted: 01:09PM Feb 18, 2008 |
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I dialogue to myself in a wordpad document. There may be things I'm not even conscious of that are bothering me so I just sit at my trusty old computer, put on some music and type all my thoughts out. It's amazingly theraputic and usually cures the insomnia that comes from all the thoughts in my head. If you truly are angry it might at least let you release some aggression.
I had a different technique back when I was in high school (an extremely stressful span of years - it gets better), that was minorly destrutctive and I wouldn't suggest it. My mother can get really negative and verbally abusive so I was angry and stressed a lot being under her roof. My middle sister used to throw and break things, I also wouldn't suggest that.
Oh - and meditation. Not necessarily sitting indian-style and repeating "ohm" but just sitting, eyes closed and breathing deeply thinking of a peaceful place or a great moment you had experienced.
My mantra: "This too shall pass"
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Posted: 03:47PM Feb 18, 2008 |
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AndrewWalker wrote: I guess a lot of the stress really is in my head.
You are spot on there! (without trying to sound patronising)
Stress is in your head. It is just the minds way of coping with what is difficult. I am no psycyatrist, but I do think the word "stress" is used way too much these days, sure some people do suffer stress, but at 15 you shouldn't be letting things get you down. You should be enjoying childhood while you still can (and yes at 15 you are still a child).
Granted there may be things in life that are dificult, I won't lie to you, there will be plenty more, much more serious things to worry about before you die.
Two rules to remember:
1) Don't sweat the petty stuff
2) It's all petty stuff!
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 04:02PM Feb 18, 2008 |
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Yeah yeah that speech easier said than done. But what is really hard is when people get on your nerves, and there is this one person no one likes and she is a crule substitute teacher, church organist, and possesed by something. I think she is also stressed, but relaxing is hard with school, family, church, etc. I just need one week for everything to just stop!
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Posted: 12:15PM Feb 24, 2008 |
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i WAS stressed out, but not too much anymore. my secret? sports. no, not like being on a team sport, just some relaxation. like, i'll go outside onto my front yard and just shoot a basketball. or, i'll go down to the park with someone that enjoys softball, and we'll throw 4 hours, not saying a single thing.
i also like skateboarding, or skootering. i will jst ride up and down the street, and take my mind off things.
and when im angry, i just do this: (BUT IT HAS TO BE IN ORDER!)
1.Close your eyes.
2.Breath in (2, 3, 4)
3.(after you count to four) Breath out (2, 3, 4)
Do that for about a minute or so, and i think ull feel better.
hope u feel better, andrew.
(haha my name is andrea, so what if this like, worked for the both of us b/c our names came from the same origin? dat wud b WIERD!)
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 12:51PM Feb 24, 2008 |
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I find doing productive demolition is very anti-stress, take an old bottle or something and just smash it, it may be dangerous if done too often, but once in a while is is great.
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Posted: 08:56PM Feb 24, 2008 |
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For me, breaking things does not relieve stress as much as making things does. I'd rather write a long story or put a puzzle together than break something.
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 12:36PM Feb 25, 2008 |
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I mean if you are just really tense and you need to relive it now, get some adreniline going, my grandma had to go out to the garage every morning and just yell or she couldn't function.
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Posted: 01:07AM Mar 14, 2008 |
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Andrew -
My advice to you personally would simply be to survive whatever situation is troubling you. If you can move through and move past the thoughts that plague you, then you can become a much stronger person. If abuse or something sinister is involved, the best option is almost always to blow the whistle. I was a rather... lost cause, for lack of a more general term ( I try not to share too much on-line) for quite a while, but eventually I moved on and moved through. Now I'm sixteen and at my local community college with my GED and a full scholarship. Who knew?
One other thing to keep in mind is that it is quite easy to exaggerate our problems, not only toward the outside world, but toward ourselves. We can convince ourselves that our situations are absolutely hopeless if we like, and it often seems that the more imaginative and creative we are the easier this is to do. In essence, beware of becoming too melodramatic.
Also, I wouldn't advise putting too much stock into doctors, especially psychologists. There are quite a few good ones, but there are easily as many bad. I've found that they often have a hidden agenda, and that they will, on occasion, diagnose children with diseases or disorders just to move them through the system. The diagnose-all of the nineties was ADD, and until recently it had been bipolar, but it now appears that autism is all the rage. If you can find a good therapist, I'd also recommend counseling. If nothing else just talking out the issues that are giving you trouble can be quite beneficial.
One last thought - there is no need for perfection, not getting that A will not trigger a scene straight out of Chicken Little. Don't push yourself to the point of undue stress over academia, it can cause some nasty headaches later on.
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Get creative! Find an outlet and use it. If you're like I am, and you find solace in shouting out words onto a blank page, then immerse yourself in the world of poetry or prose. Let your stress run out of your own self and into the pen, then let it bleed out onto the paper. If art's your thing then by all means turn that canvas into a portrait of the thoughts that race throughout your mind. If you are a sculptor then use the chisel to chisel away at your worry. Music? Lose yourself in the melody, and let the music flow. It's that easy. There's no trouble that can't be overcome when the power of the right side of the brain is invoked. 
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AndrewWalker
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Posted: 07:40PM Mar 28, 2008 |
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Good advice, but it is hard to look on the bright side when my sis may have diabetes, I have been to a mental hospitial recently, have bipolar (or so they say), parents having mid-life crisises, sis going to college, having anxiety attacks, on meds, family's health is only so-so including mine, having a mental war, a spiritual war (kindda I am working on it so it isn't so bad now), parents don't make much money and I need some medical doctors (nothin serious), school is getting worse, and I thought I was moving but now am staying, and I am constantly bored! DANG! I got depressed just reading htrough this!
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