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HarryPutter*ca

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new Posted: 01:26AM Mar 26, 2012

I found this on another site, and I thought it would be good to share!


TOP TEN MYTHS ABOUT INTROVERTS
Myth #1 – Introverts don't like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don't talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won't shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don't interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don't worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don't see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don't like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you're in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don't like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don't like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don't need to be there for long to "get it." They're ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don't have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don't follow the crowd. They'd prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don't make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It's not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it's just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don't know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot "fix themselves" and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.


Can anyone relate to this list? Also - what has been your experience as an introvert, or with introverts?


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dolphingurl12Aus

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new Posted: 07:31PM Mar 26, 2012

I can relate to ALL of it!

People often assume I'm weird, anti-social, prudish, or rude, but I'm really just introverted! I wanna print this out and pass it around when I meet new people, but I think that might not help.


Writing is the only thing that, when I do it, I don't feel I should be doing something else. - Gloria Steinem
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ShadowsAcamod

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new Posted: 07:49PM Mar 26, 2012

I used to be shy, weird, aloof, etc., but not anymore. Maybe it's because I didn't have friends back then.

"Time's rushing by me like the wind / Gotta grab each moment that I can / 'Cause I'm never gonna feel like this again"
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SneakattackAus

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new Posted: 09:02PM Mar 26, 2012

I am definitely an introvert. But I'm not worried about it because I'm a good person, I'm friendly, I'm humble, I'm doing good in school and I have a bright future. Plus I have a few good, close friends.

What are you looking at?
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irishthistleAusmod

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new Posted: 08:16PM Mar 27, 2012

Nice list. Very true for me, I too can relate to all of it. I grew up very lonely, I was The Smart Kid, people htought I was weird, antisocial, everything. I watched the popular groups and they looked like they were having so much fun, and I wanted that. So for a short time I "fixed" myself. I do have charisma, I'm not shy and years of data taking while an outcast enabled me to say the right things, and so I became the social butterfly that looked like it would make me so happy.

So there I was with bunches of friends, going out every night and people paying so much attention to me..... and I was absolutely miserable. I wanted to hang out with a few people with whom I had a real connection. I didn't want to go to the club every night, noise does bother me, I was actually glad to read that in the list because I thought I was strange. I do get overwhelmed and I can't hear conversations. I needed to recharge at home, but I never got enough time. It was even at the point that the ringing phone grated on me as an imminent disruption of my thoughts. Worse, (and not that this is true about the majority of extroverts) the people I was around formed these meaningless "brother/sister" titles and claims of love which would be disintegrated during a fight and then reformed. I'm very loyal, and I'm not anti-social but if I say "I love you" I mean it. And I'm an only child.

We are who we are, and that wasn't me. Now I'm just a happy introvert.



When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me". ~ Erma Bombeck ~ Posting in blue in memory of Ram 1968 - 2011.
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LogicalRogerAus

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new Posted: 12:18AM Mar 28, 2012

I can relate to much of that list. :] Well, I wouldn't even justify the term "weird" - weirdness is pretty subjective, and when the world is weird being weird can mean making sense. I've been fine with being "weird" since Middle School. I love eccentricity, personally. It's the spice of life. And I do like being alone from time to time. Obviously not always, otherwise, yes, it isn't difficult to be lonely and loneliness isn't a good feeling.

I like being an introvert, though. I can definitely relate with the first couple. In my experience, most people like to talk and talk with those who talk. I don't. I am happy to offer advice or my opinion or explain what I am planning or whatnot but there has to be a reason. I don't like having empty conversations or ones I would be lost in. I think the biggest problem is not having many people with similar interests though. When I am able to say something I know or like (just because saying negative opinions doesn't tend to go over well) I probably will. Unfortunately I don't think Southern California in this current time is full of subjects I enjoy to talk about. Thus I keep quiet. As long as I'm not being ignorant and failing to try things I have absolutely no knowledge of, I have no problems with such an idea. When people come around to talk about things I want to talk about I will talk and find those conversations far more rewarding and natural than awkward chats about the football. I already do talk with people who share my passions and the conversations are often good ones. I even am interested in conversations about the recent tests. Of course that's because it's an important topic and is a subject common to everyone in class and thus very accessible.

I'm also accustomed to soft physical gestures. A slight bow or a emphatic grin or even a nod accompanied with a small "uum." I'm not sure if it works with others here, but I like it. It's peaceful and calm. A pleasant silence can be a beautiful thing.


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EliosAus

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new Posted: 02:15PM Mar 29, 2012

That is a good list - thanks for sharing!

I find #5 describes me the best. I do like to socialize with others, but it wears me out. Even when I'm hanging out with my family or close friends, I can only take it soo long before I'm exhausted and have to excuse myself for some "down time."

As for #1, it's not always that I don't have anything to say. As an introvert, I'm naturally quiet and reserved; I don't want to interrupt others. So boisterous, talkative people tend to overrun the conversations. And when I do say something, people just don't listen. But perhaps that's a difference between being an introvert and being shy? (or me not being interesting )


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shawneeo*us

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new Posted: 08:21PM Mar 31, 2012

Yep, I loved that, thanks Harry!

I guess I'm an introvert, at least I have been for quite awhile, meaning many many years. I don't think I was so much as a child, but around my early twenties I became way more introverted. I simply do look inward a lot, and I do it to try to understand: why we/I do things, what's true and what's "folklore", and deeper stuff like the meaning of life, etc.

I do, however, have a fascination with people who can talk totally without self-consciousness anywhere they are. I think a part of me wants to be like that, and that's more how I was as a child.

Anyway, these days, I try to be smart about it... is what I'm looking at inside worth looking at? Am I being productive/creative or am I just being afraid? So, I try to keep the "good" inrovert stuff and phase out the stuff that's more of a bad habit than a creative way of being... y'all fellow introverts know what I mean, right?


Life... can be so many things... how can anyone ever think they are RIGHT? HAhahahahahahaha!!!!!
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20min_usernametus

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new Posted: 03:01PM May 6, 2012

I can totally relate with a lot of this. I should show it to one of my friends that thinks I'm antisocial. haha. What I really identify with is number 6. I think pretty much all the time. When I'm walking somewhere, I'm usually on this weird auto-pilot sort of walking--I'm thinking about other stuff than where I'm going. I hate small talk too. I suck at it and it's just super awkward. So I don't do it anymore. yeah. That's all, mostly.

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irishthistleAusmod

Mad Horror Geek
Posts: 937


new Posted: 09:45PM May 18, 2012

Someone just told me that my dreams of working with government agencies when I finally get the money to finish my degree was never gonna happen because I describe myself as an introvert. After I rather "extrovertedly" read him the riot act, I showed him this article from Forbes. I thought y'all might find it interesting too Why Introverts Can Make the Best Leaders. And oddly, that's not all, Forbes seems to be in love with us, while looking up that article to post, I found at least 5 more extolling our virtues.

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me". ~ Erma Bombeck ~ Posting in blue in memory of Ram 1968 - 2011.
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