Belonging to Multiple Cliques?
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Sneakattack 
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 Posted: 01:06PM Jun 15, 2012 |
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Hi everyone.
I've been inactive because I have been doing stuff with friends, socializing, school, etc. But I wanted to come back to ask a question, because sometimes somewhat anonymous help is the most helpful haha.
As many of you know, a "clique" is a group of people that always stick together because they have similar interests and behaviors.
You have people who are more jock-like (doesn't mean they're bad people), people who are more affiliated with video games, and people who just do whatever. Immature and mature. Crazy and calm. Cool and nerdy.
But what about people who switch in between cliques? That's what I've been doing lately, and I'm not sure if it's right or not. Let me explain.
I made friends with people this year who are the jocky type. They're sense of humor and what they do is... interesting might I say. But they're really cool, and while they are tighter amongst each other than they are with me, they like me, and they like to hang out with me from time to time.
But they don't share all of my interests even though I like being around them, and honestly, I have a hard time keeping up with what they want to do, so I feel like I bore them sometimes even though I make them laugh often and they like me.
In the meantime I'm also friends with people who are the nerdy, video game type guys, and I'm a little bit more like that. They like me too.
And I've been around a few other smaller cliques. In summary, I'm playing a multiple-faced person, even though I'm still the nice cool guy I always am. Neither clique really knows I hang with the other that much tbh.
What do you guys think of this? Do you feel I should remain faithful to one group of people and remain that way, or do you feel: the more friends the merrier?
-Sneak
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LogicalRoger
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Posted: 02:03PM Jun 15, 2012 |
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You're only "playing a multiple-faced person" if you're not showing your true self to them. If all you're doing is being yourself and hanging out with people you normally wouldn't then there shouldn't be a problem, at least with honesty or morality or anything of the sort.
I doubt there are many people who would only belong in one clique as it is, as though they were some perfect model of a "nerd" or a "jock". Though I never really hung out in school beyond school itself, the people I spoke to and spent recess and lunch periods with weren't strictly within the "clique" line. I'd say I'm nothing like a jock, but there have been friends who were members of the high school football team. I've had friends who fixed computers and some who invited me to their Christian club. Like life, the microcosm of a school is varied and to cut yourself off from anyone you enjoy being with simply because of some silly "law of the world" is ridiculous.
I would never advocate going out of one's way to get more and more friends, as that always seems laced with artificiality in a drive to be popular, but if you have plenty of good friends, then why not keep them?
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Smithy  
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Posted: 01:49AM Jun 17, 2012 |
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I would say it's only really a problem if it plays on your mind too much, i.e. if you're actively considering which cliques you'd like to associate with or how you should act within them. The best way is simply not to consider people as being within certain "cliques" and just befriend whoever you want to based on who they are, not who they might be categorised with.
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